In 2021, I completed ninety-three days of military training away from my family. I know it’s nothing compared to those who have served over a year in an overseas deployment. But I had some challenging moments during my days across the country without my wife and kids. I missed them. I didn’t see the kids in their first matching Halloween costumes. I wasn’t there to celebrate with my wife on our anniversary.
Early in training, one of the cadre’s senior Chaplains encouraged us to “hunt the good stuff.” The idea is that even in the toughest of times, we should tune our hearts to the good things at hand. After this lesson, I was still randomly shouting, “I miss my family!” Only one other classmate would give me a strange look and would ask if I was okay. It was a simple and cathartic way to share my feelings.
But even when I made those cries, I could still get the most out of my time in training. I read more books than I had since college. I spent long nights discussing life with other chaplains in training. I even picked up skateboarding again. But most of all, I was being made into a better and more seasoned leader and counselor for the people I serve. I was also in good shape because we worked out 5-6 times weekly. At the end of our training, another classmate reciprocated the same shout, “I miss my family!” We all looked back and realized we made the most of our time together despite the difficulties it may have raised.
In the most challenging moments, there is a lesson worth holding onto for the benefit of your future. You may need another pair of eyes to help you see the good in an otherwise tricky situation. And remember, “to hunt” may take some proactive effort.
